Dr. Stanley Goldstein - Author and Psychologist

A Psychologist's Thoughts on Clinical Practice, Behavior, and Life

Psychiatrists’ Families Aren’t Healthier Than President Trump’s!

January 6, 2018

Tags: Trump, children, politics, parenting

In a well-received book some years ago, a psychiatrist described his mother’s naked body being used as a card-playing table by his father and cronies. In a paper by a psychoanalyst-psychiatrist (Bulletin of the Menninger Clinic, “The Sad Soul of the Psychiatrist,” early 1970s), it was stated that clinicians who treat children do (more…)

Childhood Memories Related During One Family’s Thanksgiving (NOT my patients)

November 27, 2017

Tags: childhood, Thanksgiving

(!) Mother speaking to her teenage sons at the breakfast table: “I do everything for you and our neighbor does nothing for her kids. She spends all the money on herself, treats them like shit, and they kiss her ass.” A son’s response: “OK, ma. Bend over and we’ll kiss your ass.”

(2) A (more…)

Sexual Harassment and Rape

November 21, 2017

Tags: rape, sexual harassment

Among the recent unsavory harassment revelations was a woman’s (“A”) disgust and discomfort when her boss thrust his tongue into her mouth. This reminded me of my different reaction when, as a newly arrived graduate school TA (Teaching Associate), a fellow TA who I had never met suddenly appeared at my carrel, threw (more…)

Stephen Paddock's Motives for his Mass Murder in Las Vegas

October 14, 2017

Tags: Paddock, Las Vegas, mass murder

My hypothesis is derived solely from news reports. Several explanatory factors seem significant to this mass murder. The killer, Stephen Paddock, was sixty-four, an age when one begins to sense their mortality if they haven't earlier. Despite his two brief marriages and paramour later, Paddock was basically a loner and might have resented never (more…)

Thank you, Madonna!

October 7, 2017

Tags: Madonna, high school

As high school reunions arrive, one wonders how other's lives turned out. Yet, decades later, I remembered the name of only one fellow student, Eric, and not favorably.
An old saying is that one forgets those who have done us favors but never forgets those who have humiliated us, and I found this to (more…)

Should America Adopt China's Way of Education?

September 11, 2017

Tags: school, children, student, China, teacher

The (September 9-10, 2017) Wall Street Journal's article, "Why American Students Need Chinese #Schools," makes several points: that, in China, the teacher rules supreme over the parent, and that effort and drill are considered the educational pathway to success. There, teachers engage in behavior which would cause their arrest for child abuse in America. Yet, (more…)

Advice for the Beginning Psychotherapist:

September 1, 2017

Tags: psychotherapy

(1) Progress in psychotherapy doesn’t directly correlate with the amount of talking. (2) A therapist most usually becomes nervous when there is something that they are not picking up. (3) Patients usually know what they should do but can’t. (4) Know someone well enough before accepting them as a patient. (5) The initially troublesome patient can turn (more…)

Diagnosing Bullying

August 22, 2017

Tags: bullying, school, children

Though all agree that bullying is bad, its complexity and that of the victim are often downplayed. In fact, bullies may primarily be sadistic, depressed, or anxious; and victims may primarily be submissive, provocative, or masochistic. Varying teacher and family dynamics exist for each, ranging from fear and helplessness, to parents who gain vicarious (more…)

Treating Anorexia

August 17, 2017

Tags: anorexia

A major difficulty in treating anorexia is the person's resistance to treatment for, despite their life-threatening medical symptoms, they tend to deny any difficulty apart from not being thin enough. When this is achieved, they believe that all of their life issues will be resolved.
These individuals tend to be unable to (more…)

Anxiety Disorders, and the Retreat from Relating to Unconscious Motivation

May 1, 2017

Tags: Anxiety, unconscious

This past weekend’s edition (April 29-30, 2017) of the Wall Street Journal contained the review of a book describing the author's painful experience with anxiety (“On Edge: A Journey Through Anxiety” by Andrea Petersen). Her long-term symptoms included the usual: multiple fears, and non-medically caused, odd bodily sensations.
After years on various medications and ( (more…)