Dr. Stanley Goldstein - Author and Psychologist

A Psychologist's Thoughts on Clinical Practice, Behavior, and Life

A Toddler's Advice: How my parents can best help me develop

February 22, 2016

Tags: toddler, psychology, development, child

1. Watch over me.
2. Monitor me for safety.
3. Help me when I need help but don’t be intrusive or bossy.
4. Sometimes, just be my playmate.

A painful stereotype learned on Valentine's Day

February 15, 2016

Tags: stereotype

I was at a Valentine's Day event yesterday. It was voluntarily catered by a gifted chef who had refused numerous suggestions that use her talent for profit. Another attendee told me that she was born in Spain, spoke with a heavy accent, and had difficulty being understood over the phone. This caused her to (more…)

An eminent author's words, for all writers to live by:

February 15, 2016

Tags: writer, Maugham

"It is a salutary discipline to consider the vast number of books that are written, the fair hopes with which their authors see them published, and the fate which awaits them. What chance is there that any book will make its way among the multitude?

"And the successful books are but the successes of (more…)

The Value of Narcissism and the Denial of Truth

February 5, 2016

Tags: narcissism, psychology, ego defense

“Narcissistic” is often used pejoratively to describe an immature person though it, and the denial of truth, are normal ego defenses against anxiety. While these mental mechanisms, if broadly used, are pathological for adults, they have valuable benefits.

When confronting knowledge of an exceptionally painful situation such as a serious illness or severe (more…)