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A Psychologist's Thoughts on Clinical Practice, Behavior, and Life

How Much Change Can Psychotherapy Enable?

I recently watched Netflix documentaries on the investigation of cold case murders in Los Angeles and New York City. in one, two teenagers from affluent families were convicted of murdering a middle-age man in Manhattan's Central Park, they later receiving the shockingly brief prison sentence of six years and serving half before being paroled. Thereafter, the girl was returned to prison to serve out her remaining sentence after she assaulted a fellow-parolee in their half-way residence while the boy remained out of trouble. No motive was ever established for the boy's vicious knife attack and the girl's complicity except rage.


While both their families had been caring, the girl had been adopted, which is a risk factor if the child is past infancy when adopted, and the boy had been a loner and shy. She had been in numerous drug treatment programs and both attended excellent schools. This raising the issue of whether, even given the best of treatment, their lives would have been different.


Change through therapy depends on the depth of psychological problems, the talent of therapy provided and its length. Luck too is a factor: had the youths not been drinking in Central Park that evening the murder might never have occurred. Which is why therapy is best provided in early childhood, before the stresses of adolescence and adulthood are encountered and lives are wasted.

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Why Many People Never Change Their Behavior

Why Many People Don't Change - That many people don't change throughout their life is no surprise to most and the reason for this lies in the complex survival mechanism of early infancy. During the earliest days of life, negative and positive valances for experiences are created. Positive valances are for experiences during which needs are met, as when their mother feeds them when they are hungry. Negative valances are for the opposite, created when critical needs go unfulfilled or when they experience anxiety while gaining fulfillment of a positive need.

 

We now know that infants are far more capable than had been believed, even capable of understanding certain simple arithmetic operations. Being wholly dependent, they are especially attuned to the emotions of their caregiver, especially when they are anxious. Thus, if the infant senses their mother's anxiety when seeking nurturance, this experience willcreate a powerful negative valence, a Pavlovian-type conditioned reflex behavior that will exist and affect their search for intimacy throughout their life.

Another critical factor is the infant's tendency to view situations in black/white terms, whether an interaction is satisfying or not. Thankfully, for most people this tendency becomes modified during the course of development as youth and adults increasingly understand that most interactions are shades of gray rather than an absolute.

 

But just as the ripping up and rebuilding a road is difficult and time consuming so too does the change required to modify a fixed personality structure. Which will not be necessary so long as the child has experienced a good enough parenting experience, which need not be a perfect pairing experience for none ever experience this.

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Artificial Intelligence Won't Make Teachers And Doctors Extinct!

Despite the recent fervent statements of computer luminaries that teachers and doctors will become extinct because of artificial intelligence, I don't see this happening. But first a story.

 

Fifty years ago, in one of New York City's worst school districts, a newly minted science teacher stood before his class for the first time, viewing his teenage students create bedlam by throwing things and screaming. During this uproar, a boy grabbed a girl's large doll and pretended to have sex with it, causing screams of what was happening using graphic language of course. Meanwhile, their teacher silently watched. After the boy said, "Well, it beats a dog," the teacher spoke for the first time. "It sounds like you tried both and know which you prefer." The entire class instantly shut up and, thereafter, the students got along great with the teacher with the smarter ones being helped with their homework while lunching in the lab, with more students passing the state exam than ever before in that school.

 

Regarding the medical profession: a recent study found that artificial intelligence was far more accurate in diagnosing a patient's illness then the doctor with the artificial intelligence having an above ninety percent accuracy rating while the physicians' rating was in the upper sixties. Which may force positive change in the medical profession with doctors spending more time advising patients about healthy life practices than treating the results of their poor choices.

 

My point is that while artificial intelligence is capable of certain tasks, it will never provide the human element which is critical in the teaching and medical professions. Moreover, audio-video instruction is only effective with children when adult participation is present. Hopefully, poor teachers and doctors will become extinct but the sensitive skillful ones will remain.

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The Cause Of Autism Will Never Be Found Because Parents Don't Want To Hear It

Recent news reports have stated the government's intention to discover the cause of autism shortly. Which, I predict, won't happen! The origin of autism has long been known and ignored for reasons that lie deep within the unconscious. Autism arises in a child who has experienced severely deficient, not merely imperfect, parenting during their earliest years. 

 

Infants are perceptive so, sensing this, they try to become independent which is why these children often appear precocious. When this attempt fails as it must, the child protectively creates and enters a world of their own, one which may be described as the autistic protective shell. 

 

A recent study in Australia found that when the parents of infants who were diagnosed as autistic were provided intensive parent education and counseling, most of the children were no longer diagnosed as autistic by four years of age. This knowledge is resisted because of the unwarranted parental guilt it would arouse. This, even though children are not born with parenting instructions and all adults had their own childhood issues to deal with. Incidentally, autism is vastly misdiagnosed and children with mild autistic symptoms can have them vanish after brief play psychotherapy.

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The Value Of Talking To Oneself

I once had a patient with a disabling symptom, a fetish which is an obsessive need to touch or photograph or otherwise involve themselves with an object or body part, which can be a woman's shoe or foot, just about anything. Being almost always a male symptom, women tending not to develop them, it reflects early life trauma during which the object involves what has been termed "castration anxiety," the boy's fear of losing his penis. The boy, having seen a naked female and fearing they may lose their penis as he incorrectly believes the female did hers, uses the fetish to symbolize this fear and underlying anxiety. Which tends to persist since early childhood has immaturely developed thinking capacities and is the bedrock of the adult personality.

 

After explaining the nature of fetish to this man, I advised him to talk to himself: to tell himself that while the fetish helped him when he was a child it was no longer needed. Still, both he and the fetish would remain friends throughout life but the fetish could relax. Using this technique, which contains elements of play therapy with children, his obsession with the fetish disappeared within several months.

 

Similarly, when one has experienced a traumatic experience, during wartime or after rape or assault, if one tells oneself that the later symptoms were created to help them and not the problem, they are better able to cope. Understanding that the associated symptom such as nightmares are friendly warnings to resolve an unconscious conflict and not an enemy.

 

So while talking to oneself has a bad reputation, it often being associated with psychosis, it can be healing. But it should be done when alone and need not be spoken aloud.

 

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Euthanizing Youth

This posting was inspired by a March 24, 2025 article in The Times of London. That euthanizing unhappy youth would be permitted by a nation was unheard of until recently when it became Netherland's policy. This violating the inescapable accepted belief that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Of the ten-thousand persons who died by euthanasia in the Netherlands last year, there was a sixty-percent increase in cases involving psychological suffering compared with 2023.


In one case, following approval by a committee consisting of a doctor, an ethicist, and a lawyer, "a boy aged between 16 and 18 who had autism, anxiety and depressive feelings was euthanized legally. The young man described his life as 'luckless.' He felt very lonely, was deeply unhappy and did not enjoy anything. He could not connect with peers and society, and felt misunderstood...The doctor was convinced that the young man's suffering was hopeless. He did not expect current and any future treatments would improve the quality of life."


How many teenagers (or adults) have said the same at some time in their life? One can't help wondering if approval would have been given by these officials were this child their son. It beggars the mind that while in the past we treated suicidal individuals, approval is now given to support and assist their delusional beliefs. The current minimal public knowledge of child psychological development and developmental psychopathology may explain this horror.

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The Life-long Social Deficits Of Autism And Asperger's Disorder

Despite media clamor both Autism and Asperger's disorder are often misdiagnosed and relatively rare, particularly in their severest form. Yet, when present, they have devastating social affects. The early years of life are critical during the development of psychological and social capacities which include the ability to trust, to share feelings, and to tolerate intimacy and gain comfort from relationships. Because these disorders develop during those years, severe weakness of these capacities are common, causing their often odd social interactions. Though, with luck and ability, they may be fortunate enough to succeed in becoming financially independent, the potential joy of human interaction may continually elude them.

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Child Psychology Ignorance and Medical Mischief

An article in The Wall Street Journal ("We Are Turning Too Many People Into Medical Patients. The swift rise in in diagnoses for everything from autism to ADHD may be doing more harm than good./March 17, 2025) aroused these thoughts.
Long ignored ignorance about child psychological development and developmental psychopathology (a term coined long ago by my doctoral advisor) enables much faulty medical diagnosis, as is decried in the Wall Street Journal article. Several factors have contributed to this.
1. Anxiety can mimic just about every physical symptom: feelings of warmth or cold; feeling faint; headache; stomach pain, elevated blood pressure and check pain; even visual symptoms in an optic migraine. Distinguishing the true medical concern from symptoms of heightened anxiety requires training which the typical physician lacks.
2. Autism is vastly misdiagnosed with some children's autistic features vanishing after brief play psychotherapy.
3. ADHD, Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, though enabling a lucrative treatment industry, is perhaps the most unsophisticated notion in medical history. First diagnosed by a seventeenth-century English physician as "mental restlessness," it took root in early nineteen-hundreds America as Minimal Brain Dysfunction, of which a Harvard psychiatrist remarked that any doctor affixing this diagnosis must have a minimal brain dysfunction. Its symptoms are identical with anxiety and depression, which are present in nearly all medical and psychological difficulties and school difficulties too..
4. Another diagnostic error is affixing the diagnosis of Bi-Polar Disorder to children. It is difficult to speak calmly of the degree of this error since the Bi-Polar Disorder diagnosis requires a fixed, adult personality which youth lack by definition.
5. The treatment for these misdiagnoses is usually one or more of the psychotropic medications, long articles of their misuse having been recently published both in The Wall Street Journal and The New York Times. A rarely acknowledged reason for this is that today's psychiatry residents receive only ten-percent of the training in psychotherapy they received seventy-years ago, fostering the belief that the treatment of choice for any of life's ille is a drug.
Truly, ignorance abounds. Nuff said.

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Tooth-Fairy Medicine Markets Dangerous Psychotropic Drugs

A moving article in The Wall Street Journal ("Generation Xanax: The Dark Side of America's Wonder Drug"/March 13, 2025) aroused these thoughts. Myths such as such the unsophisticated etiologies of "chemical imbalance" and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) have long troubled the mental health field. The latter has diagnostic symptoms which are identical to the anxiety and depression associated with nearly all medical and behavioral disorders. While a hospital administrator, when I spoke to the Director of Psychiatry about the side-effects of psychotropic medications he angrily stormed, "There are no side-effects!" And he was not a stupid man, one of his degrees being from Cambridge University. Myths that reduce income tend to have long lives.

 

That psychotropic medications can have crippling physical and mental side-effects tends to be ignored and the Wall Street Journal asrticle does a worthy service, describing the disabling psychological and neurological symptoms and even suicide of users. What's eqally troubling was another article describing the current push of several drug companies to create and market drugs which allegedly "cure" schizophrenia and Bi-Polar Disorder though their psychological etiology has been understood for decades except, of course, by those who don't want to know. Abetted in these quests are many present-day psychiatrists, which is understandable since today's psychiatry residents receive only 10% of the training in psychotherapy that residents gained sixty-years ago.

 

A large study fifty-years ago found that, of previously severely disturbed hospitalized psychiatric patients, the most favorable outcome post-discharge was those who received no medication with the highest rate of recidivism being with patients who were prescribed medication while hospitalized and after discharge, with former patients who were prescribed medication while hospitalized but not after discharge having an in-between recidivism rate.


To paraphrase the sixteenth-century proverb of the English writer, John Heywood, there are none so blind as those who refuse to see.

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When Your Child's Behavior Causes You To Feel Inadequate

A parent shouldn't feel badly when their child's behavior causes them to feel inadequate for it might just indicate that they're behaving in an exemplary manner as their child is comfortable expressing their true feelings!

Adults tend to believe that everyone they speak with are relating logically but this isn't true of children. Their mind is immature, they have an inadequate, often erroneous view of events and, when ornery, are simply behaving as adults sometimes do when they're ill or tired. If persistent in children this is termed Oppositional Defiant Disorder. If persistent in adults it is termed being passive-aggressive or simply being irritating.

When frequent in a child it should be investigated since it indicates their distress. Which, if not reduced, will harm their developing personality and later adult functioning. Occasional parent anxiety is normal and beneficial since it indicates their fear of making a parenting mistake and the common feeling of "mommy-guilt." But they shouldn't be overly fearful since children forgive parenting errors so long as they feel loved.

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