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A Psychologist's Thoughts on Clinical Practice, Behavior, and Life

Gabrielle Petito's Murder and Freud's Benediction on an Unmarried Psychiatrist

While not downplaying the power of unconscious motivation, Petito's murder, which is not unusual for abused women, might have been avoided had she followed one simple rule: to better know your partner before becoming intimate.


Nearly a hundred-years ago, an unmarried American psychiatrist underwent his training analysis with Freud in Vienna. This then lasted six months and, at their last meeting, Freud expressed the wish that the doctor be lucky enough to gain a happy marriage. "With all your psychological knowledge can luck be a factor?" the surprised doctor asked. "Of course, because one cannot know someone without living with them for a long time."


Thus Freud's good advice for all: It takes a long time to know someone. Take it.

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How Abuse Victims Fall Apart Psychologically (Decompensate)

Abuse victims fall apart psychologically (decompensate) in stages. The victim first denies the reality of imminent danger with a stubbornness bordering on the psychotic. When this defense against the reality of the situation fails, the victim tends to lose control of themselves and give up. As other people fail to help them, the victim feels given up on and enters a state of resignation. Finally,as all  Read More 
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